The False Comfort of Hate
What do you hate? Who do you hate? Pause and think about that. Most people hate something. We hate a certain kind of food. Maybe a person, and idea or a political party. There is at least one thing in this world that makes our blood boil. When we see it or think about it we squint our eye and prepare ourselves for battle. Most people internalize it and bite their tongues. At the other extreme some people bring the hate out into the real world in the form of physical aggression against others. Sometimes it feels good to hate and to associate with other people that hate the same things you do.
Take a minute and think about what you hate.
Where does that get you? When has hate ever benefitted you? It may seem like a good driver at the time. But it is exhausting on the soul. It makes you start arguments where they weren’t needed. It shuts you down from viewpoints that make you better person. And it takes up the limited time you have on this planet. If you hate too much it starts to feel comfortable and natural. The danger is that hate is unhealthy for you mentally and physically. It will trickle from one area of your life into others. Left unchecked it will turn you into a person that hates most things. And nobody likes that person.
Why not direct the energy from hate into something would help another group or person? Rather than spend time and energy demeaning and dragging down someone you found a way to lift someone else up. It’s OK to not want to associate with things you dislike. But pick a group that YOU do like and put your energy into making that group better. Now of course I’m not talking about hate groups, violence or anything remotely breaking the law. But find a person or group of people who needs to know what you know to make themselves better. Create a legacy from making someone better vs creating a legacy based on what you hate.
You have a finite amount of time and energy every day. Rather than break down something, use that energy to build up someone else. Your influence can shape the future of this world if you use it correctly.
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