A lot of people want to make a difference in the world. But I can tell you from personal experience that the best you can do is to try and make a difference in a single life. Find someone who desperately needs something you have: Street smarts, intelligence, business wisdom, a shoulder to cry on, etc. Give THAT to a single person and you will make a world of difference to them. Don’t try to change the world. Make life better for a single person at a time. Your ripple will make the world better in ways you’ll never fully be able to realize.
Are you ever browsing the internet looking for ways to be more successful and more motivated ? Every now and again you’ll stumble upon the blog of a person that is living the life you want to live. They look like they are famous. They talk about their money or other assets. They have a huge social media following. They are loved and adored by all of their fans. And you are 100% sure that they are relaxing in their 10,000 square foot house house drinking top grade alcohol while floating in their pool.
I’ve heard friends say that they encounter this often. And it is depressing. It is depressing to think that so many other people in the world that are doing so much better than you are. It can be almost painful at times to see that somebody else has no problem buying food. Or making their mortgage payment. Our putting clothes on their kid’s backs. If you go to the extreme you might be one of those people who have an extreme hatred for successful people. Why do they deserve to get everything? You are the one working two jobs and your lights still get cut off every now and then.
If you ever feel yourself getting angry when you see somebody else’s life I want you to remember this list:
- You don’t know that person’s history/backstory. They may have been through more hell than you can imagine before they “made it”. Some of the most successful people have been in jail, gone bankrupt multiple times, lost limbs, and have been through multiple divorces. You just never know.
- Anybody on the internet can portray anything. That person with the 10,000 square foot house could be in the middle of a foreclosure. You just never know.
- Every second you spend focusing on somebody else’s money is one less second focusing on generating money for yourself. That is one of the reasons I spend a lot of time talking about time management on this blog.
- There is no shortage of success and money. If you want it bad enough you will bust your ass to get it. No amount of jealousy or whining will pay your bills.
Pay close attention to #3. The more time you spend on #3 the less time you have to spend on #4. If you are frustrated with your lot in life, then stop wishing for something better and stop watching other people have what you want. Just go do it yourself.
Now get off of the internet and figure out how to generate your own personal fortune.
You read it right. Start Selling Less If You Want To Sell More. It seems counter-intuitive. And I know there will be plenty of people who have been in sales for decades that disagree with me.
If you are “that sales guy/gal”, here are some general unscientific facts about how people feel about you:
- You are not trusted.
- People hate to get your calls and your emails.
- People avoid you at parties.
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Ladies and gentlemen I just found this great article for you to read:
Can waiting tables teach you how to be an entrepreneur.
Pay very close attention to #1. Write it down. Make it your backdrop and your screensaver. Tattoo it on your … well you get my point.
No skill you ever learn in life will get you as far as plain old people skills. The art of conversation. The art of listening. The art of shutting up. The art of using your eyes and ears twice as much as your mouth. If you are an introvert I am sorry – you are not going to make it far when it comes to business and entrepreneurship. And maybe you don’t want to. I am not trying to dog you if that is your thing. But if your goal is to be a star then you have got to start getting your mad crazy people skillz in motion.
When I think back of all of the successes I have had over the past two decades just about all of them came from my people skills, either directly or indirectly. I have contracts that started off as casual airport conversations. I have lifelong friends because of an humorous encounter in a coffee shop.
Hey you pushy sales guys this is for you: I am not heavily into being a salesman but I know all I need to know from the great lady that was my real estate broker. Right after I got my real estate license several years ago she was teaching us about how to fill our pipe. Her words – verbatim – where
The first thing you do is you make a friend. You then sell your friend a house.
Now go out there today and make 5 new friends. Do not eat lunch alone. I’ll even help you out. If you are in Oklahoma City drop me a comment here.