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Hello my friends. It’s Patrick Allmond from stopdoingnothing.com. It’s probably been a while since you’ve listened to a podcast or seen a video because I’ve been screwing around. I have been doing plenty of stuff, but not taking care of you the viewers and the listeners at the Stop Doing Nothing podcast and on the Stop Doing Nothing page. I am working hard to remedy that. I know as much as my website preaches about not doing nothing, I have been slacking a little bit on that but it’s not because I’ve been sitting around doing nothing, it’s because I’ve been sitting around growing my agency by leaps and bounds. Business is great, but I’ve abused this which is a real passion project for me in an area where I really want to help people. Please accept my apologies for those of you that listen to the podcast and watch the video, and by the way if you are on one right now, be sure you subscribe to the other. If you listen to this on the podcast, go subscribe on YouTube, and if you are subscribed on YouTube watching this, you can go subscribe over on iTunes.
For those of you who are first time listeners, first time watchers, let’s really recap again a little bit about me and a little bit about Stop Doing Nothing. Like I said my name is Patrick Allmond. I run a digital marketing agency here in Oklahoma City, and I started Stop Doing Nothing a while back as a project to help me motivate myself, but to also externally share the information that motivates me. Different people get motivated different ways, different people are coached different ways, and I tend to be more of the aggressive, ambitious, go, go, go type, don’t stop, work a long hard twelve hours before I take a break type. I wanted to share my thoughts on how to work like that with other people like that. There’s a lot of different ways, like I said, people can get motivated. Some people are motivated by a soft, fluffy, bunny foo-foo stuff. That is not me. I’m going to come out you at 90 miles an hour, and if you’re not doing what you should be doing, you’re going to find me really getting on your case about it.
After a while if I get on your case about something when it comes to coaching or whatever, and you’re not doing it, or you don’t want to do it, then I’m just going to walk away because you obviously don’t want to put in the time and effort. Those kind of people, those are the kind of people that the podcast and the video is for, is people like being highly productive. I like to call them high achievers, extreme high achievers. You don’t mind working seven days a week for spurts at a time because it just helps you get done. You don’t mind blowing through obstacles, you’re the kind of person who always sees that there is a way around, over, under any kind of obstacle. Those are the kind of people that I like to work with. That’s who this video is for, that’s who this podcast is for, so again for you first time listeners and watchers, welcome, welcome very much.
Like I said I haven’t been sitting around doing nothing. Couple businesses doing great, now it’s time to get back into taking care of Stop Doing Nothing. As you see, you probably see a bizarre pink wall behind me and some patchwork going on. We’re doing some remodeling here. That was one of my many excuses for not getting a video out to you and a podcast out to you. I was looking for the perfect environment, the perfect background, the perfect soundproof room, and you know what? It’s coming. It will get there, but done is better than perfect and you probably hear me say that a lot. That done is so much better than perfect. If you’re the kind of person who’s waiting to get something done, like a podcast, like a video series, man just get on the ball. Quit sitting on your hands, quit screwing around, and get started on it.
I apologize if the room isn’t perfect, and yes it is a bright pink or purple background, but hey, deal with it, okay? Just so you know we are based in Oklahoma City and we are going to be doing these weekly and there’s a huge fan page out there. It’s under the name Patrick Allmond and you can find me on TwiCer also at patrickallmond.com.
Today I thought I would talk to you about one of the more popular blog posts on the website recently, stopdoingnothing.com, for you avid readers. The most popular blog post over on stopdoingnothing.com over the past, oh I don’t know, thirty days, sixty days, and ninety days, is one called How To Become Obsessed With Something. How to become obsessed with something, so we’re going to focus on that word obsessed today, and kind of clarify what it means for me, and I’d like to hear your feedback also about what it means to you. As I’ve become more mature in the world, I’ve learned that when I really want to get things done, it takes an insane amount of obsession. I’ve tried over the years to, whether it’s exercise, let’s speak about that topic of exercise. I’ve tried casually going to the gym, and maybe doing some walking here and some running there, and maybe do one week on and one week off, or do a day and skip four days. I’ve tried that. Oh it’s really cool, you can’t hear it, but there’s an airplane flying overhead. I’m a big aviation fan and a pilot and whenever an airplane flies overhead, man I am in love.
Anyway, getting back to the word obsession, I’ve just tried various levels of dedication when it comes to getting tasks done, and the only way I have learned is to become kind of obsessively consumed with accomplishing a particular task, a particular goal. That is not easy, and that’s getting harder and harder every single day with being a business owner, and the number of things you have to pay attention to. Oftentimes I take care of my own social media, take care of my own e-mail marketing, I take care of all my own video work. There’s so many things right now that I do myself as a business owner that are keeping me from being obsessed on certain things. The last video I made, one of the things I’ve really been working on is getting things off of my plate. Literally, for fitness reasons, and figuratively. I’m slowly handing out the tasks in my company that I don’t have to be directly involved with to other people who are smarter than me.
That’s kind of a self-realization that’s happened recently is a lot of things that I’m doing that are keeping me from getting obsessed, I’m not very good at. There are smarter people than me, and my ego’s going to have to deal with it, but there are smarter people than me that know how to do some of the things that I want to do. There are some things I’m really good at. I’m really good at meeting with clients. I’m really good at closing business. I’m really good at finding new business. I have no problem with that. But there are some other things when it comes to running the business that I am not great at, and so what I’m doing is getting obsessed about those things that I am great at, and slowly shuffling away, pushing away those things I am not that great at.
In your life, this is my challenge to you, after you watch this particular video is become that person that’s somewhat obsessed. I’m not talking about the sick kind of obsessed. I mean be willing to set the standard for your life, and for your business at a very, very high level. Not just some of this mediocre low end stuff. Be willing to do things like put aside social activities, or put aside maybe eating certain things, or maybe working a few more hours here and there, and a few more days here and there. If you’ve seen some of my previous blog posts and videos, you know that I really don’t mind working seven days a week. Especially on the stuff I like. There are plenty of times where I’ll go to the gym on Saturdays and the gym on Sundays also, because I’m becoming that obsessed with my fitness.
I don’t think it’s kind of a sickness in the head thing, I think it’s because there’s so much that I want to do when it comes to life, and to my body, and just being healthy and things like that, and I’m realizing every single day that I have a finite number of days leP, and a finite number of hours. I don’t have cancer or anything but all of us are going to die at some point. We all have a stop date. That’s something we can’t fight. When you put off stuff for an hour or a minute, or a day, that may be that one hour, that one minute, or that one day sometimes for that thing that your really wanted to do when you will lose the opportunity to do that. That scares me, and so again, I’m the kind of person that’s becoming obsessed with the things I want to do, the things that bring me joy, the things that allow me to help more people, like Stop Doing Nothing. This really juices me.
There are people I have internationally which like the videos I put up, and like the podcast, and a lady the other day, Chloe, what did you put on your vision board. Someone, Chloe, put on her vision board that her goal was to meet me, and I’m like, “Wow, that is a heavy responsibility.” I want to do more of that type of stuff. Now, in my mind, I know I’m going to have to meet her someday because she put that on that vision board, and I want to make her vision and her goals and her dreams come true. That’s a huge responsibility. But it’s something I have fun doing. I have fun talking. I don’t have fun writing, I’m not a good blogger, but I have fun talking. I have fun podcasting, and I want to do more of that, so I’m becoming more obsessed with those things, and less obsessed with the things that just don’t make a difference. I would encourage you to do that also. But as you can tell I feel pretty passionate about this project, so you’re going to see me talk more about that as we better the video series, and better the podcast.
That’s all I’m going to talk about about the word obsession. Get obsessed, if you haven’t done so yet, go read that blog post over on the website. If you go to it right now, I’m at the website, there’s a secKon down the middle of stopdoingnothing.com homepage which is called viral videos, and right now it’s in the upper leP hand corner. It says become obsessed with something. That has been an insanely popular blog post. Of course you can always find it over on TwiCer, YouTube, and Facebook and read about that same blog post there.
Enough about that. What else I wanted to talk to you about today? Book recommendations. I’m slowly culling down the number of books I have but that does not mean I’m reading less. I’m going to start recommending books to you because that’s when I really get smarter. I get smarter hanging around with other people. I get smarter listening to other people speak and going to conferences, but once I pick up a book and read certain chapters over and over, it really kicks me in the butt. My latest book that I have read, I have actually read through once and I’m going through it on my second time, is this book right here by a friend of mine. A gentleman who I personally consider a friend of mine right now called Dan Meredith. And yes, the book is How To Be F*cking Awesome. It’s a very easy read. That’s the thing I liked about it. It’s simple. Most complicated topics are really simple when you break them down. 184 pages right here.
The chapters are things like, let me see one of the chapters here just so you know when you’re getting into this, Be Selfish, Be Shameless, Be Weird, Be Brutally Honest, Be Valuable, Be Interesting, Be Spiteful, Be Productive, Be Around Like Minded People, Be Relentless, and Be Nice. This is going to be like no other book that you’ve ever read. Dan is a very raw person, a very real person, a very transparent person, and if you’re looking for that extra kick in the butt, like you are looking from stopdoingnothing.com and I don’t have a book, I would go pick this one up from Amazon. I think it was $20 on Amazon from Rethink Press. I love this book so much that I’ve actually started buying copies of this book and giving it out to friends as gifts. I mean it’s just an insanely, insanely great book.
Going forward for Stop Doing Nothing, you’re going to see we’re talking about more books, but what I really want to do is gear this show toward what your needs are, and how I can help you with my forty some odd years of life and business experience. This is what I need you to do. Leave a comment someplace, and if you don’t want to do that, I’ve got another option for you. Go subscribe on YouTube, go subscribe on iTunes, to subscribe on Facebook, and either send me a PM, a private message if you don’t want me to bring up your name when it comes to the topic, or just leave a comment on the videos and subscribe and tell me what topics you would like me to cover about business and life. What’s holding you back from greatness? What is keeping you from being obsessed?
If you’re only mediocrely or somewhat interested in a topic, let me know what that topic is, and I might be able to help you transition to becoming obsessed about it, either through I’m making of the videos for you, answering Q&A, or maybe we could possibly get into some coaching sessions, or maybe they’ll be some products or books where I can refer you, mine and others, that can help you be a better person in life, and become more obsessed with your success and turn you into more of a high achiever. Because that’s really important to me as I want to see you function at the highest level, whether it be physically, psychologically, mentally, spiritually, or in your relationship, I want those things for you.
Something else that’s just really cool, if you don’t want to send those questions on social media, you can take out your phone right now for the U.S. watchers, and text me questions to 405-251-2022. 405-251-2022. That number comes, that’s not my cell phone directly, but it does come to my cell phone, and I will get those. I will use that as fodder to answer future questions on the show. Again, 405-251-2022. For our international listeners and watchers, I apologize, I do not have an international number but if you know me on Twitter or Facebook, you know how to send me a private message and I will use that in future versions of the show. I’m going to immediately start working on the next version of this show for you, so we keep this consistent, so I eat my own dog food. Remember done is always better than perfect, and so in the next episode you’re going to see me probably pick another topic to talk about, probably have another book recommendation for you, and hopefully I will have some questions from you that I can use as fodder for discussion for between us.
You’re going to see this show progress, get more frequent, we’re going to have guests. I’ve got plenty of great plans for this show, if you just hang with me, stay with me. I promise I will make you a better person and I will make this better for you. One last thing, don’t forget to subscribe on iTunes and leave a show rating. Don’t forget to subscribe on YouTube also and leave me a comment over there. Very important on the YouTube side, and don’t forget to follow me on Twitter and send me a private message also. Until the next video and the next podcast, thank you very much for watching. I want you to know that I really have a heartfelt appreciation for those of you that stick through me, through all the talking points, through the entire video, through the entire podcast, and already interact with me online.
I take that very seriously. I take the responsibility very seriously, and I take my mission very seriously. The more I hear back from you, the more, as I heard someone else say this, the more it fills my bucket and the more energetic it makes me to want to do this for you. Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart. I will talk to you again soon. Have a great week and a great weekend. Good morning, good evening, or good afternoon depending on where you are watching this in the world and I love all of you and we’ll talk again soon. Take care.Read More
“Just decide. Then do what you have to do. The universe is like water. It will get out of your way once you make a committed choice”
I don’t personally know everybody reading this. But I’d be willing to confidently bet that a lot of you are struggling with choices. Not bad choices. Great choices. Choices between Job A or Job B. Choices between lovers. Choices between a job and running your own business. Choices between two great business opportunities being presented to you. Choices between sitting on the couch watching TV or going to the gym. You have some great options available to you. Yet for some reason you cannot choose.
I need you to remember this: Not choose a direction is also a choice you are making. And it is the worst one.
Struggling with two or more great choices is not uncommon. But what is common is people stuck in middle, afraid to choose. You may put off a decision for an hour, a day , a month or a year. But you keep putting it off. And every day you do, you are hurting yourself. You are sacrificing amazing success down the path of one of your choices. This is especially true when, as mentioned above, both of your choices are great. Either one would lead you down the path of more success and happiness.
Your challenge today: Make the commitment to yourself to make faster choices. Be willing to accept that there are never perfect choices. Only choices that get you moving in the right direction. I love the phrase “Done > Perfect”. Stop killing getting things done while you sit around waiting for perfect.
For some more insight on this:
First, congratulations. You made it. You wrote that book. Asked that girl or boy out. Got the promotion. Maybe landed your first head coaching position. Started a new business. I know you have worked hard to achieve that goal, congratulations. Enjoy this moment because now it is time to work if you really want to stay on top.
We spend so much time working toward a goal that we forget to plan for what life will be like after we achieve that dream. And too many times we end up not sustaining our success. It’s not our talent that changes. Our talent got us to the top, it is being ignorant of the work needed once we make it to the top that brings us back down. Let’s look at how we can prepare for that work.
Transitions are a great time to reflect and analyze your goals. This is not easy, though. Achieving a goal is a clear mark for you to reach, but what do you want to do now? Do you want to sell 100,000 copies of your music? Do you want to be CEO of the company? Do you want to win a state title? By articulating what your goals look like it will help with the next step.
A clear goal allows you to create a new plan and with a new plan comes new habits. This doesn’t mean your whole life changes, but to stay successful after reaching your goal demands you to create habits to sustain that success. With new goals in mind, you can see what it will take to achieve those goals. The new habits you will need to set become clear. But, you and I know that creating new habits is hard. That is why the third idea is so important.
Hopefully, you understood why you worked so hard to accomplish your goal, but in the days, weeks, even years it takes to achieve a goal you can lose sight of the deeper reasons you set out on this journey. Rewriting your goals will help. Goals bring back a focus to your why. But rewriting your goals may not be enough. And honestly, if you find it hard to set new goals connected to sustaining your success, you may have forgotten why you wanted to reach the goal in the first place. It happens. Success is hard work and you can get lost in the grind.
If you are finding it hard to set new goals, or unsure what to do know that you are at the top, there are a few things to help find your why. First, enjoy the moment. Recharge. Success takes energy. You will find it easier to make the transition from reaching the goal to maintain that success when your energy level is back. Second, be honest with yourself. Evaluate (with your goals in mind) what you want to do next. Sometimes reaching a goal takes so much time that you have changed. If you decide to strive after another goal, that is awesome. But if you want to now take this dream to the next level, be honest, it’s now time to work. You will need to remember why you are doing this, set new goals to achieve, and create new habits to stay on top.
Bio: Jamey Boelhower is a husband and a father of six. He is currently an Instructional Coach and an adjunct professor for Central Community College, Nebraska. You can read his regular blog “It Is All Connected” by clicking here. And you can follow him on twitter at @jdog90Read More
There are no shortcuts. There are no quick fixes. There are no secret methods to “being productive”, “making more money”, and “time management”. As much as I may use these phrases on occasion, they are all worthless without the magic word. The magic word overrides all of these. When you focus on that magic word, everything else falls into place. When you focus on that magic important word, you don’t have any problems getting shit done. You don’t hate your day and your life. You realize that busting your ass is part of the process of success.Read More
Let’s be brutally honest for a minute. No excuses. No whining.
Here is the truth; any success you have in this life starts with you.
How much work are you willing to put in to your goals? Patrick Allmond has a post about working on the weekends called “Want Success Faster? Treat Your Weekends Like Your Weekdays”. Have you read it? I wonder how many people agreed with the idea, but then give the excuse that they deserve the weekend to relax?
Here is the truth; any success you have in this life starts with you.
Afraid of what might happen if you make a change? Do it anyway. Remember jumping off the diving board for the first time? How many times did you jump off the board that day? You overcame the fear to discover the joy of doing something you wanted to do. What joy are you missing today because of fear?
Or are you too comfortable? You talk about a goal. You think about a goal. You might even take a few steps toward achieving that goal. But life is comfortable, things are good. Reaching for something better may disrupt your life. Comfort = Fear. You are right, it will disrupt your life. And no, I can’t guarantee you will succeed, or tell you how long it will take. What I do know is that striving for our goals adds depth and joy to our lives.
So, it is time to be honest. No excuses. No whining.
Here is the truth; any true long-term life success starts with you.
Let’s get to work.
Bio: Jamey Boelhower is a husband and a father of six. He is currently an Instructional Coach and as adjunct professor for Central Community College, Nebraska. You can read his regular blog “It Is All Connected” by clicking here. And you can follow him on twitter at @jdog90Read More
I believe that the definition of definition is reinvention. To not be like your parents. To not be like your friends. To be yourself.
When I was young I had no sense of myself. All I was, was a product of all the fear and humiliation I suffered. Fear of my parents. The humiliation of teachers calling me “garbage can” and telling me I’d be mowing lawns for a living. And the very real terror of my fellow students. I was threatened and beaten up for the color of my skin and my size. I was skinny and clumsy, and when others would tease me I didn’t run home crying, wondering why.
I knew all too well. I was there to be antagonized. In sports I was laughed at. A spaz. I was pretty good at boxing but only because the rage that filled my every waking moment made me wild and unpredictable. I fought with some strange fury. The other boys thought I was crazy.
I hated myself all the time.
As stupid at it seems now, I wanted to talk like them, dress like them, carry myself with the ease of knowing that I wasn’t going to get pounded in the hallway between classes. Years passed and I learned to keep it all inside. I only talked to a few boys in my grade. Other losers. Some of them are to this day the greatest people I have ever known. Hang out with a guy who has had his head flushed down a toilet a few times, treat him with respect, and you’ll find a faithful friend forever. But even with friends, school sucked. Teachers gave me a hard time. I didn’t think much of them either.
Then came Mr. Pepperman, my advisor. He was a powerfully built Vietnam veteran, and he was scary. No one ever talked out of turn in his class. Once one kid did and Mr. P. lifted him off the ground and pinned him to the blackboard. Mr. P. could see that I was in bad shape, and one Friday in October he asked me if I had ever worked out with weights. I told him no. He told me that I was going to take some of the money that I had saved and buy a hundred-pound set of weights at Sears. As I left his office, I started to think of things I would say to him on Monday when he asked about the weights that I was not going to buy. Still, it made me feel special. My father never really got that close to caring. On Saturday I bought the weights, but I couldn’t even drag them to my mom’s car. An attendant laughed at me as he put them on a dolly.
Monday came and I was called into Mr. P.‘s office after school. He said that he was going to show me how to work out. He was going to put me on a program and start hitting me in the solar plexus in the hallway when I wasn’t looking. When I could take the punch we would know that we were getting somewhere. At no time was I to look at myself in the mirror or tell anyone at school what I was doing. In the gym he showed me ten basic exercises. I paid more attention than I ever did in any of my classes. I didn’t want to blow it. I went home that night and started right in.
Weeks passed, and every once in a while Mr. P. would give me a shot and drop me in the hallway, sending my books flying. The other students didn’t know what to think. More weeks passed, and I was steadily adding new weights to the bar. I could sense the power inside my body growing. I could feel it.
Right before Christmas break I was walking to class, and from out of nowhere Mr. Pepperman appeared and gave me a shot in the chest. I laughed and kept going. He said I could look at myself now. I got home and ran to the bathroom and pulled off my shirt. I saw a body, not just the shell that housed my stomach and my heart. My biceps bulged. My chest had definition. I felt strong. It was the first time I can remember having a sense of myself. I had done something and no one could ever take it away. You couldn’t say s—t to me.
It took me years to fully appreciate the value of the lessons I have learned from the Iron. I used to think that it was my adversary, that I was trying to lift that which does not want to be lifted. I was wrong. When the Iron doesn’t want to come off the mat, it’s the kindest thing it can do for you. If it flew up and went through the ceiling, it wouldn’t teach you anything. That’s the way the Iron talks to you. It tells you that the material you work with is that which you will come to resemble. That which you work against will always work against you.
It wasn’t until my late twenties that I learned that by working out I had given myself a great gift. I learned that nothing good comes without work and a certain amount of pain. When I finish a set that leaves me shaking, I know more about myself. When something gets bad, I know it can’t be as bad as that workout.
I used to fight the pain, but recently this became clear to me: pain is not my enemy; it is my call to greatness. But when dealing with the Iron, one must be careful to interpret the pain correctly. Most injuries involving the Iron come from ego. I once spent a few weeks lifting weight that my body wasn’t ready for and spent a few months not picking up anything heavier than a fork. Try to lift what you’re not prepared to and the Iron will teach you a little lesson in restraint and self-control.
I have never met a truly strong person who didn’t have self-respect. I think a lot of inwardly and outwardly directed contempt passes itself off as self-respect: the idea of raising yourself by stepping on someone’s shoulders instead of doing it yourself. When I see guys working out for cosmetic reasons, I see vanity exposing them in the worst way, as cartoon characters, billboards for imbalance and insecurity. Strength reveals itself through character. It is the difference between bouncers who get off strong-arming people and Mr. Pepperman.
Muscle mass does not always equal strength. Strength is kindness and sensitivity. Strength is understanding that your power is both physical and emotional. That it comes from the body and the mind. And the heart.
Yukio Mishima said that he could not entertain the idea of romance if he was not strong. Romance is such a strong and overwhelming passion, a weakened body cannot sustain it for long. I have some of my most romantic thoughts when I am with the Iron. Once I was in love with a woman. I thought about her the most when the pain from a workout was racing through my body.
Everything in me wanted her. So much so that sex was only a fraction of my total desire. It was the single most intense love I have ever felt, but she lived far away and I didn’t see her very often. Working out was a healthy way of dealing with the loneliness. To this day, when I work out I usually listen to ballads.
I prefer to work out alone.
It enables me to concentrate on the lessons that the Iron has for me. Learning about what you’re made of is always time well spent, and I have found no better teacher. The Iron had taught me how to live. Life is capable of driving you out of your mind. The way it all comes down these days, it’s some kind of miracle if you’re not insane. People have become separated from their bodies. They are no longer whole.
I see them move from their offices to their cars and on to their suburban homes. They stress out constantly, they lose sleep, they eat badly. And they behave badly. Their egos run wild; they become motivated by that which will eventually give them a massive stroke. They need the Iron Mind.
Through the years, I have combined meditation, action, and the Iron into a single strength. I believe that when the body is strong, the mind thinks strong thoughts. Time spent away from the Iron makes my mind degenerate. I wallow in a thick depression. My body shuts down my mind.
The Iron is the best antidepressant I have ever found. There is no better way to fight weakness than with strength. Once the mind and body have been awakened to their true potential, it’s impossible to turn back.
The Iron never lies to you. You can walk outside and listen to all kinds of talk, get told that you’re a god or a total bastard. The Iron will always kick you the real deal. The Iron is the great reference point, the all-knowing perspective giver. Always there like a beacon in the pitch black. I have found the Iron to be my greatest friend. It never freaks out on me, never runs.
Friends may come and go. But two hundred pounds is always two hundred pounds.Read More