I recently gave a presentation locally in Oklahoma City on what leadership is and how our youth can become effective leaders. Here is the first part of that series:
Leadership is the ability to inspire people to reach a common destination. It is the wisdom to see the challenges and obstacles that are placed in your way and know that you can get around them. You may not know how or when. But you honestly believe deep down in your heart you know you can get there. A great leader will pull you and help you accomplish things that you did not know that you could do. A boss will sometimes push you to someplace that you did not want to go in a way that you don’t want to go.
It is also someone who by word AND by deed always does the right thing. What does that mean – by word and by deed ? Always – even when nobody is looking. Why is this person a leader ? Because sometimes it is hard to find a person who always says and does the right thing. When we find that kind of person they can become our spiritual and moral leader. These are the kind of people that we can aspire to be like.
Stay tuned for part two to be posted shortly. I’d be interested in your comments below on Part I
I have a challenge for you readers. I double dog dare you to not spend money on anything frivolous today. So that would mean cutting out all of the following today and donating it towards charity. This would include:
– Clothes you don’t need
– Computer toys you don’t need
The list can go and on. That is my plan for today. I am going to attempt to spend $0 today. My car has a good tank of gas and I have plenty of food in my house so this should not be a problem.
Instead I am going to spend my time on poverty. Not just thinking about. But acting on it. Once I actually sat down and thought about it there is so much that I do take for granted. From having a roof over my head to shoes on my feet. I tend to ignore those that are less fortunate than me. I ignore them on the street. I change the channel on late night TV. I say not interested and hang up on every charity call I get.
That is not the person I want to be . Is that the person you want to be? If not what are you going to do about it? And when are you going to start.
>???????? the type of person who wants to constantly better myself. One of the area I am focusing on is physically. This week I have taken some major steps to get on track with my weightlifting. I am not attempting to break any records in this world. But I do want to get on a program of consistent progress to achieve a fixed measurable goal. My thought process on this is in line with how you should be approaching all of your goals:
1. Plan out the steps in detail
2. Every day/week take that step
3. Did you take that step? If so celebrate the accomplishment and start focusing on the next step.
This is the only way in life you will get anywhere. It does not matter what you want to improve on or what area of your life you want to improve in. Financially, Spiritually, Physically, etc. The path is always the same.
Did you take any steps this week? Today? This morning? If so I’d love to hear about them. Your steps and your progress will help the rest of the people reading this blog to take their first steps. Those first steps are always the hardest. But once you get rolling it is hard to step.
Have a great weekend. Make sure you leave a comment below with what you accomplished this week.
But the thing you should really focus on in his videos and in some of his writing is how happy he is. He absolutely loves what he is doing. He is not doing it to be popular, famous or make a lot of money. It just makes him feel good. And when you see someone doing something that makes them feel good it tends to make you feel good also. That is what I get out of watching him play, and that is what I hope you get also.
So… have you ever been as happy as this man? Will you ever be? If you are not happy right now then what are you doing to get onto the right path? Are you doing anything?
Big giant fitness goals are hard. Little tiny fitness steps are easy. Here are 5 things you can do today that will cause you to burn more calories than you did yesterday. FYI… more mouse movement is not one of them.
1. Don’t drink your morning coffee – drink water instead: When you wake up skip the morning joe with the cream and sugar and get yourself a big giant glass of water instead. It will quence the dehydration state that your body went into overnight, and it will start your metabolism churning to burn the upcoming calories.
2. Don’t drink anything but water all day long – Keep up #1. For today and today only do no drink anything but water. No coffee. No juice. No soda. No tea. Keep a constantly filled small water bottle with you at all times. At the end of the day you probably won’t be dragging. And water will keep that metabolism churning.
3. Park as far away from your office as possible – Don’t park in that all close coveted spot – even if you have a reserved spot. Park in the boonies – where you have your choice of spots. Take advantage of the good weather you might be having and enjoy the nice leisurely stroll across the lot into work. Think of all of the door dings you won’t have! And instantly you have burned more calories than most people have by this point in time in the morning. For extra points – offer your reserved spot to somebody who normally has no choice but to park in the boonies.
4. Get up once every two hours and walk around the building – If you need to get up for that hourly break don’t go shoot the BS with a coworker or drink a soda. Head outside and walk all of the way around your building. Really hustle and do it twice. Buh bye calories.
5. After dinner go for a walk – Clean up the dishes and head outside around the block. Do it twice like you did at work. Do NOT plop down in front of the TV with the remote. And do not come back in front of the computer. Grab a family member and head outside.
I double dare you to do any of these and let me know how you feel at the end of the day.
Pay very close attention to #1. Write it down. Make it your backdrop and your screensaver. Tattoo it on your … well you get my point.
No skill you ever learn in life will get you as far as plain old people skills. The art of conversation. The art of listening. The art of shutting up. The art of using your eyes and ears twice as much as your mouth. If you are an introvert I am sorry – you are not going to make it far when it comes to business and entrepreneurship. And maybe you don’t want to. I am not trying to dog you if that is your thing. But if your goal is to be a star then you have got to start getting your mad crazy people skillz in motion.
When I think back of all of the successes I have had over the past two decades just about all of them came from my people skills, either directly or indirectly. I have contracts that started off as casual airport conversations. I have lifelong friends because of an humorous encounter in a coffee shop.
Hey you pushy sales guys this is for you: I am not heavily into being a salesman but I know all I need to know from the great lady that was my real estate broker. Right after I got my real estate license several years ago she was teaching us about how to fill our pipe. Her words – verbatim – where
The first thing you do is you make a friend. You then sell your friend a house.
Now go out there today and make 5 new friends. Do not eat lunch alone. I’ll even help you out. If you are in Oklahoma City drop me a comment here.
The human brain can only handle so much information in a short period of time.
As I approach 40 I am learning this limit very well. So whenever I see an article, blog posting, email, etc. that says ’98 tips to a more productive life’ I instantly delete it. I can tell before even pulling up the list that this is a list of items that is impracticle for me to absorb in a single sitting. Or in a single week. Or in a single month.
If you ever sit down and listen to a great music jam session (primarily R&B) you will find out that the silence in the music is just as important (if not more) as the actual notes that are being played. You cannot always have noise. Just a good guitar riff or kick drum every now and then in the hook can make for a great tune.
So if I subscribe to several productivity RSS feeds, and at least once a week I see a post about ‘ The top 38423 ways to promote your blog’ or ‘98432 ways you can have everything you want right now’ I will be forever trying to keep up with all of the items. The end result is that I will be LESS productive than I was when I started. No thank you sir!
My advice to you: Don’t read these posts, or if you do just glaze over the first 10 to see if you see anything new. Otherwise delete it because it will just fry your brain trying to implement. Odds are anyways you’ve already read them in the past month.
I am huge fan of a debt free life. And you should be too. You’d be hard pressed to convince me the merit of the phrases “good debt” and “bad debt”. It is debt, and you need to be on a mission to kill it every single hour of every single moment.
Here are my very simple ways of how to do it every single day:
1. Automate: I don’t trust myself to remember anything any more. Not to invest. Not to make a payment on time. Not to save for a rainy day. So I use my banks automatic transaction feature and I put all of my saving and investing on autopilot. I spend the money in my checkbook well ahead of time. All of the bills are on autopilot. I can probably disappear for a year and all of my finances are taken care of. Nothing will be late. If you want to stop stressing out about money and debt put everything on auto pilot. Especially savings and investing.
2. Put ’em away: You cannot use it if you don’t have it on you. DO NOT CARRY YOUR CREDIT CARDS. As I open my wallet right now and look I do not have a single credit card on my. I have 2-3, but they are over in my desk drawer (I hope). I don’t have them on me so I cannot do that quick mental justification of using one when I see a deal. If I am out shopping and I don’t have my regular debit card and I need to use the CC then I am SOL. I’ll have to come back and buy it later. But by that time I will have found the debit card or usually gone to the ATM for cash.
3. Be happy with what you have: A lot of credit card debt comes from material acquisions. I want more stuff. Gimme Gimme Gimme NOW. Even if you don’t have the cash a credit card gives you a great way to get it all now… NOT (80′ sÂ joke thrown in for effect). If you look around your life and your abode you will realize that you have what you need to survive. A roof over your head, a decent job, and (hopefully) another person to keep you happy. Everything else is gravy and sprinkles on top. If you look at it all with what you have vs. what you have not your outlook and your pocket book will be a lot happier.
4. Nothing but the cash: Learn to live off of the greenbacks. Going for groceries? Cash only. Going for Gas? Cash only. This is a great way to get an idea of the physical amount of money you are spending. You will subconciously get greedy and want to spend less. For some reason parting with a bunch of Benjamins is a lot harder than a single credit card swipe.
5. Rinse, Lather, Repeat: Are you living a LIE? You should be. Go to your computer desktop right now and start A-LIE file for July 2007: Assets Liabilities Income and Expense. 8 columns. First one is the title of the asset, 2nd is the cash amount. So and so forth for the liabilities, Income and Expenses. As much as possible document every dollar that you know about that is coming or going in the house. Look it over and see where you can trim the fat. Then add a reminder to your calendar to update it monthly starting in August. Make sure you keep the ones from the previous month. Once you have a picture of what your numbers are doing you will subconciosuly pay more attention to the dollars you spend every day. You can’t help it.
I am curious as to your top 5 tips. Let’s hear ’em!
What is the point of using Quicken, Microsoft Money or any other personal financial management software?
They help you keep track of what you are spending your money on and what you are not spending it on. But for the most part they fail miserably at one of the most important things that we are told over and over again – yor goals. They just don’t ‘get you anyplace’. They are all centered on just tracking what you having, not where you want to go. They do have some small goal setting features, but nothing that really helps the layman set an goal and that becomes the center and complete objective of the financial picture. If there is I have completely missed it – and I look at alot of financial management software.
What tools do you use or how do you manage your money so everything you do is goal based? Inquiring minds want to know.
If you are over the age of 10 here are 5 books I see right now on my bookshelf that you should have read by yesterday. These will give some great perspective on life, and give you the basic rules to handle just about anything that is thrown your way. Enjoy being smarter and getting more out of life. Smart people make me smile !
How to Win Friends & Influence People – I have read this book time and time and time again and I love it every time. The title sounds corny and fake, but I promise you that the information inside is not. This is just a good basic set of rules when dealing with other people. How to get people to talk, how to get people interested in what you are saying – all great stuff. If you abide by these rules and are sincere in your efforts you cannot help but get along with people. Isn’t that what we were put on this planet for anyways ?
How to Lose Friends & Infuriate People: Leadership in the Networked World – Yeah – I know. Kind of the opposite of the last book. But this book is about going against the grain and doing your own thing in business and in management. By doing that you are bound to isolate people and piss them off. After all – you will be making some great progress in life and they will be tooling along living their same old live by their same old rules. Break the mold. You might lose some friends and piss them off along the way. But it is all about you anyways right ? 🙂
What Matters Most : The Power of Living Your Values – There is a reason that Hyrum Smith and Franklin-Covey got involved together. When you have million things that you have to get done this book (to me) is a calming reminder of some very simple processes you can use to define yourself and what you want. It is not the least bit complicated. When you are done you will have learned alot more about yourself.
The Speaker’s Handbook – If you have a pulse then you have to communicate. Personally I love the verbal kind and I am pretty good at it. Whether you are great or looking to get there this book is always good to have around for reference. And… now that I am looking at it again… it is not bad for reference when writing also. It gives advice on humor, presentation, timing and other things to make your speech memorable. Get it and refer to it often before and presentation – verbal or otherwise.
The Flawless Consulting Fieldbook and Companion – You are good at something – everybody is . Sometimes however it is a challenge to figure out how best to convince other people that information and advice that you have is valuable and worth listening to. This is a book that I bought right after I started my own company in 1998 and it has served me well. It gives you some great ideas on how to find your place and how to make sure that what you have to say is understood and accepted. It may not always be agreed with, but the important thing is to make sure that your clients get what they are paying for. Your goal is should be to convince them that your advice (whether they use it or not) is worth paying good money for.
This is incredibly easy and I might get comments about how incredibly dumb this is. But the odds that you are not doing it right now. But I challenge you to do it BEFORE you leave my site.
1. Log into your online bank account. You can access your checking and savings account online right?
2. Go to payments and set up a regularly scheduled payment to your savings account every week for some amount. $10 – $20. $50. Mine is set up for $200.
Yes – that is it. Incredibly simple but amazingly effective. So simple that I bet you have not done it yet. You will get to it later correct? No you won’t. So do it now. If you are in a tabbed browser open a new tab and do it now.
Or you can wait and regret it. Your choice… and it is a CHOICE.